In the past couple of weeks, I have found myself challenged when it came to sticking to this affirmation of mine that I have considered the gold standard approach to dealing with just about everything. It goes a bit like this: “I must stick to the apparent facts and let logic and rationality guide my decision-making, nothing more and nothing less”.
It sounds simple and crisp, and it leaves me with an action plan pretty much written out for me once I figure out the steps I need to take to get me to point B. It’s the easiest and most logical way to carry on, right?
But let’s just say I found myself in a little pickle, and things got a bit murkier than that.
Focusing on the present and tangible stopped being enough and I was sucked into a vortex that had been shaped by all the “I thinks” and “maybes” that danced around my thoughts.
But then I remembered why I have that mantra at all.
I remembered, again, that anything I can’t control or act upon right now isn’t any of my business. Come to think of it, it isn’t yours either.
None of us are responsible for trying to preemptively resolve things that may or may not happen sometime in the future/trying to control what someone is thinking or feeling about us/anything else that isn’t in our immediate control. And when it is time to face those things, we’ll know exactly what to do and how to do it. And if we don’t get it right, there’s room to fix things.
I know how hard it is to let go and just live in the moment. If I personally had the choice, I would be very tempted to leap at the opportunity to control things from start to finish and plan everything to the last detail. But even as I continue to grapple between trying to be relaxed and clear-thinking, and letting my anxious, control-freak tendencies get the best of me, I always end up being relieved when I let the choice to live in the present win.
More often than not, things turn out just fine or even better. That’s the sweetness of the unknown, and it’s handy for keeping us on track with our journeys to all things bigger and better. And when the outcome is more disappointing than that, what’s the worst that could happen? We’ll just have to survive and eventually, carry on like we always have.